How to Prepare Your Guests for Your Elopement

Let’s talk about how to prepare your guests for your elopement! No matter where you stand on the inviting guest spectrum (from super excited to obligatory), preparing your guests ahead of time will ensure a totally seamless experience for everyone!

As a photographer who has captured dozens of weddings and elopements, I’ve seen how one guest can singlehandedly uproot an entire plan. From no-show parents at portrait time to way-too-drunk uncles to friends who underdressed (and overdressed) for the occasion, I’ve seen it all and I don’t want that you you, fam.

This guide breaks down everything you need to know about preparing your guests for your elopement from why it’s important, how to set and communicate expectations and boundaries, and how get your guests photo ready!

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Jump To:

• Why Should You Prepare Guests For Your Elopement?
• How to Prepare Your Guests for Your Elopement
  • Step 1: Determine Guest Involvement with Your Partner
  • Step 2: Set Expectations with Guests
  • Step 3: Send Reminders
  • Step 4: Go with the Flow
• How to Share Details
• What Guests Need to Know
  • Details
  • Need-To-Knows
  • Nice-To-Knows
• Leave No Trace & Guests
• Frequently Asked Questions About Guest Preparation

Why Should You Prepare Guests For Your Elopement?

When it comes to getting your guests ready for your big day, there’s three main reasons you’ll want to be extra thorough. It’s all about your experience, their experience, and your photos. When you’re able to really prepare your guests ahead of time, you’re overall experience will be much more stress-free. You’ll have less people (but, hopefully no one) calling and texting you “what time do I need to be there?”, “what should I wear?”, or “is it okay if we tag along after the ceremony?”

And even though the day is all about the two of you, it ensures that they have a good time as well! Because nothing ruins a guest experience like poor communication. Could you imagine going on a trip for an event and receiving no information about the details, the location, or what you should be doing or planning for? It’s frustrating and leaves too much room for guessing. And you know what happens when people start to assume…

And when your experience is easy and their experience is guided, you’re destined to have some stellar photos that everyone can be excited about! Because thorough guest preparation increases the likelihood of your guests:

• Arriving for photos on time to keep the day flowing
• Being properly dressed so they don’t look like the odd man out
• Enjoying their experience (they did come all this way to celebrate with you after all)
• Understanding what’s expected of them as the day unfolds
• Respecting your boundaries and giving you space for your day
• Knowing the answers to questions without having to text or call you 50 times

How to Prepare Your Guests for Your Elopement

When it comes to effectively preparing your guests, most of the legwork will be done before your elopement and can be broken down into 4 easy steps!

Step 1: Determine Guest Involvement with Your Partner

Take some time to determine how you both want your guests involved on your elopement day. Keep in mind that you don’t need to include ALL your guests for each part of your day (maybe moms are there for getting ready and ceremony, but the rest of the day is about you two) and you don’t need to exclude them either (maybe you love the idea of a group bar hop, but a just-the-two-of-you experience beforehand). This is your day so the who, what, where, when, why, and how of the day is totally up to you.

When you’re thinking on this, grab some pen and paper and jot down the answers to these questions:

• Do you want friends and family there for getting ready? If so, who?
• Are guests invited to ceremony only?
• Will you have a morning brunch or an evening reception?
• Do you want to take formal photos with them?
• Do they need to dress a certain way for photos/activities?
• Are they going to be included in any elopement activities?
• Who are you comfortable with seeing certain parts of the day (i.e., vow readings, first looks, etc.)?

Step 2: Set Expectations with Guests

Once you have a solid plan of how you want your guests involved, it’s time to communicate that. As a super Type A girlie, I’m a huge fan of putting the information in ONE location and sending it out well in advance. Whether that’s a wedding invitation insert, wedding website, pinned Facebook event post, or a Google doc (more on this later), you want to make sure that everyone is getting the same information. You’ll want to include all the answers to the above questions so guests know what to expect from your wedding day. It doesn’t even need to be long, but it does need to set the stage for what guests can expect.

For example, if you want to send a generalized message to ALL your guests, it can be as simple as “You are invited to our formal ceremony at Lightner Museum at 1 PM. We would love to take formal photos right after the ceremony so please dress in black tie. To celebrate, we will be hosting a casual backyard BBQ back at our AirBnB at 7 PM. Feel free to bring a bathing suit for pool hangs!“

If you want a few guests only for certain parts of the day (like siblings can come hang while getting ready or your best friends can come to the bar crawl), then you’ll want to make sure those people get the right information separately.

If you want to take it a step further (I’m looking at you Type A bestie), you can create a Guest Guide on Google Docs or Canva so all questions are answered and you can throw in new questions that pop up. You don’t want to be back and forth on your elopement day answering questions!

Step 3: Send Reminders

As you get closer to your elopement date, it’s always a good idea to send reminders to your guests especially if timing is involved. Remind them what time they need to be there for the ceremony, formal photos, and/or dinner. You’ll want to give them plenty of buffer time, too. I’ve seen days be derailed because Uncle Always Late ended up being…late. This would be a good time to re-send a guest guide with all the information they could possibly need!

Step 4: Go with the Flow

Now that you’ve done everything you can to ensure your guests are well prepared for your elopement day, it’s time relax and go with the flow. You’ve done everything you can to ensure that you and your guests have a great time with all the information they need to make the day go off without a hitch. And even if a guest didn’t read the details or something came up that they didn’t plan for that caused one thing or another to happen, it’ll still be a great day!

How to Share Details

No matter how you send it (wedding invitation insert, wedding website, pinned Facebook event post, or a Google doc), you want to make sure that everyone is getting the same information. Keep in mind that you don’t want to overwhelm your guests and the direction that you should use will depend on how many guests you’re inviting. Here are a few easy ways you can share the information with your guests!

• Wedding Invitation & Insert: This option is great for larger celebrations (less than 30). It provides the essential details of the day and the insert can include a weekend timeline, FAQ, expectations, or even redirect to a wedding website that will have tons of information for guests (my personal favorite).
• Wedding Website: Websites like The Knot, Zola, and Wedding Wire have easy to use wedding websites that you can put all the information for you guests. This is a great option if you’re having a larger celebrating and need to get the information out quickly and conveniently.
• Facebook Group or Event: Similar to the Wedding Website, a Facebook group or event can convey the same information and you won’t be bogged down with wedding-related emails from those websites. It’s also great because most people know how to use Facebook and you can easily pinned need-to-know information to the top of the page. The only draw back is that Facebook doesn’t collect RSVPs and some guests may not have Facebook.
• Guest Guide: Clearly, I love a good guide. Websites like Google Drive (for practicality) or Canva (for aesthetics) make it easy to create guides that will have all the information readily available. You can then easily email or text out this guide for guests to get a clear picture of what they need to know. This option is perfect for any size celebration!
• Email/Text: I’m a huge fan of formality, but if you’re only expecting a handful of guests, you can easily share information through text or email (just make sure that all the guests actually read them). The downside to this is that you might have to copy/paste a few times and answer the same questions!

What Guests Need to Know

When it comes to what information you need to give guests, it really depends on their level of involvement. Regardless, there are three types of information you should give your guests: details, essentials, and nice-to-knows. These are broken down into three categories in an attempt to drip out the information to your guests so they’re not overwhelmed. Over the course of your elopement planning, you’ll start with details, move to Need-To-Knows, and end with Nice-To-Knows while providing plenty of time for guests to absorb this information and ask any questions they might have.

Details

Details are considered the bare minimum amount of information a guest would need to plan their calendar and travel. This would include ceremony date, time, and location; attire preference/requirements; celebration expectations (i.e., ceremony only, dinner to follow, wedding weekend activities are planned, celebration later in the year, etc.) and RSVP instructions. These should be sent the soon after your ceremony plans are set in stone and you have a rough idea of how you’d like to celebrate with your guests. Think of this as what you would put on a wedding invitation!

Need-To-Knows

You’ll want to reiterate the details here, but the Need-To-Knows come down to “what’s the plan?” and “how should I prep for it?” This information can be super simple or involved depending on how your day unfolds, but you need to be clear with guests on the expectations for before, during, and after the ceremony (even into the weekend if it calls for it). This should be sent once your elopement plans are more solid, but give guests time to plan if they need to take time off or arrange child care.

For example, if you’re having a intimate ceremony with family only, but you’re having a sunset cruise with additional guests, you’ll want to fully explain that. It can be as simple as “We will be having an intimate ceremony with family in the afternoon, but would love for you to help us celebrate on a sunset cruise at 7 PM! Plan to meet a the dock (include address) 15 minute early! We will have beer, pizza, and snacks! Dress casually and be ready to party!”

You’ll also want to include what to wear with detail (formality, color palette, proper footwear, season considerations, and practical extras) and what to bring (activity essentials, personal touches or heirlooms they want included, etc.).

You’ll also want to include how you and they will be celebrating throughout the day. Need-To-Knows include:

• Parts of the day they’re included in for pre-ceremony activities or if they should follow the timeline.
• How to get to the ceremony location
• Location logistics like parking, mobility obstacles, bathrooms, etc.
• Ceremony seating and set up; will there be chairs? Does a couple’s side of the family stand on a certain side or is it a free for all?
• What they should do after the ceremony. Are we rolling right into formal photos? Do they need to leave to head to the next activity? Will there be refreshments?

Nice-To-Knows

Nice-To-Knows are just that…nice to know. This can include information about the city like travel information (nearest airport, car rental options, etc. ), accommodation recommendations, expected weather information for planning outfits, favorite restaurants, things to do between ceremony and celebration (or during their stay), sites to see, etc. This information would be best presented in a Guest Guide for guests to flip through or reference before your elopement day!

Leave No Trace & Guests

If you’re not familiar with the Leave No Trace principles, I highlyyy recommend you check them out ahead of your elopement to ensure you’re following them and your guests follow them. The LNT principles is much more popular out west, but I would love to bring them to the sunshine state because we need this level of care for our environment as well. As an environmentally-conscious elopement photographer, it’s my mission to guide you and your guests to ensure that we are celebrating appropriately while not disrupting the environment.

One of the best things about wanting to elope in wild Florida is how raw and untouched it feels and keeping it that way is a big deal. Following LNT principles helps protect the Florida’s natural parks and resources for future couples and local wildlife.

Within your guest communication, send them a link to the LNT principles and some guidance on how they can ensure they’re easily following the rules on your elopement day. In addition to the 7 principles on the website, here’s what I would highlight:

• Dispose of Waste Properly: Whatever you bring to the elopement (snacks, flowers, cans, towels, décor, drinks, etc.), take it all with you when you leave.
• No Confetti, Rice, or Flower Petals: Even biodegradable confetti or real flower petals can harm the ecosystems and wildlife. The 30 seconds of admiration is not worth the long term effects of adding this to the environment.
• Respect Wildlife: Florida has made a spectacle of the wild life so it’s easy to disregard this principle and opt to try and pet that manatee, but please please please respect the wildlife and admire from a distance.

Frequently Asked Questions About Guest Preparation

From guests and couples!